Communication Mistakes in Marriage: The "He Said, She Said" Argument

By Jeff Barnet Have you and your spouse ever disagreed about what or how you said something? Your mate probably remembers you saying things that you know you never said. Read on to discover how to resolve the he said, she said argument. "Let's Call The Whole Thing Off " You like potato and I like potaeto,You like tomato and I like tomaetoLet's call the whole thing off So, if you like pajamas and I like pajahmas,I'll wear pajamas and give up pajahmas.For we know we need each other,So we better call the calling off off. Fred Astaire I know I said ,I like potatos. She swears I said, I like potaetos A frequent communication mistake I see is when a couple argues about an argument. Recently my wife and I had a he said, she said argument. An issue can up that we had difficulty resolving because we were trying to figure out who said what, how was it said, and when was it said. Lets call the whole argument off We got bogged down in the details of the argument instead of dealing with the problem. At this point we just had to agree to disagree. I was not going to convince her that I was right about the details, and she was not going to convince me that she was right about the details. Once we agreed to disagree we were able to work out the original issue. Ill wear pajamas and give up pajahmas I see a lot of couples get into a discussion of how the argument went. That is not going to resolve the problem. I can guarantee that you are going to remember things differently. It is a well-known fact there can be several witnesses to an accident, and each witness will remember certain details differently. The he said, she said argument is the same principle. You both will remember the certain details differently. We know we need each other This is one situation where you have to decide what is more important: proving you are right or having a happy marriage. In my own he said, she said argument, I still think I remembered our disagreement correctly. However, my wife probably still thinks she was right. However, what is important is that we were able to move forward and resolve the issue. Visit http://www.BuildingYourDreamMarriage.comfor more tips and tools for building your dream marriage. At my website you can sign up for a free newsletter and listen to a free audio on Building Your Dream Marriage. You are also invited to find out more about our relationship building services at http://www.BuildingYourDreamMarriage.com/services.html from Jeff Barnet, counselor and relationship coach. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Jeff_Barnet http://EzineArticles.com/?Communication-Mistakes-in-Marriage:--The-He-Said,-She-Said-Argument&id=413506 sba loan for coal bed seam gas extraction figure withholdings on paycheck who can help me pay off my payday loan no credit check auto loan